Women commonly become the victim of abusive relationships. But it also happens to men as much as women. There are simply women who love themselves too much to the point of abusing these gentlemen.
Most of us thought that getting beaten is the only way to know whether we are being abused by our partners. But, no. There are more ways to figure if it’s time to leave a relationship aside from the physical abuse.
So, how do you know if you are in a healthy or abusive relationship? Watch out for these red flags, because you too might be in an abusive relationship and you’re just denying it.
1. You are frequently tiptoeing on eggshells.
If you always feel like you are not free to say or do what you want because your partner gets mad easily, then it’s a red flag that you are not in a healthy relationship.
2. You are always forced to put your partner’s needs first.
Whether you like it or not, you have to set aside your own needs to give priority to your partner’s, or else, you’ll be opening up a reason for an argument again.
3. S/he cheats and/or likes making you feel jealous.
S/he simply doesn’t care about how you feel that s/he will constantly flirt with others either intentionally or not. Or worse, s/he keeps cheating on you, or has cheated.
4. S/he criticizes and/or ridicules you in public.
It doesn’t matter whether you are alone or in public, if s/he wants to say something against you, s/he’ll say it. S/he always criticizes you and s/he doesn’t care whether you’ll get hurt or not.
5. S/he blames you for his/her misbehaviors.
S/he always tells you that it is your fault why s/he’s being like that. You are always the reason why s/he acted that way. You provoked him/her, so you will suffer the consequence.
6. S/he is controlling everything you do.
You need to tell him what you do, where you go, who you are with every moment of the day. S/he tells you what to do and how to do it, and you always need to listen and follow, or else you’ll regret it.
7. You always feel angry, alone, and helpless.
Your partner is making you feel inferior instead of helping you grow. You feel like your whole relationship is a hell where you have to suffer all your life. It’s not going anywhere and it feels like a constant dealing of negative emotions.
If you feel or experience one of these red flags, it could be that you are in an abusive relationship. Nobody deserves to stay in a place that’s dragging you down instead of lifting you up. Our purpose of being in a relationship is to have a partner we can lean on when times get rough, not to live with someone difficult to deal with and abuses our affection.